Give it Five Minutes

When someone says something with which I disagree -- I should give it five minutes:


He said “Man, give it five minutes.” I asked him what he meant by that? He said, it’s fine to disagree, it’s fine to push back, it’s great to have strong opinions and beliefs, but give my ideas some time to set in before you’re sure you want to argue against them. “Five minutes” represented “think”, not react. He was totally right. I came into the discussion looking to prove something, not learn something.  -- Jason Fried



"I have recently discovered the same thing about myself, so I've started forcing myself to ask the other person at least three questions about their opinion. Forming those questions helps me think. Often, my gut negative opinion changes. Sometimes, the questions change the other person's opinion. There is no downside." -- Dustin Curtis